Parents Play a Vital Role for Childs Psychology

My friend Sindhu is a Counselor for school kids. Thought of sharing some experiences of her while counseling and teaching. First let me tell you about Sindhu, she is my friend from class 1, she is a very active girl from childhood. Sindhu was the first person to contact if her friends/classmates had some issues, she always uses to have some or the other solution for the issue. May be that's the reason she took this profession and doing with efficiency.

She shared some of hers counseling experiences with me, according to her primary class students are very tuff to counseled. They are very innocent by which we can't explain her in a matured manner we need to be very patient with them. One boy of 1st STD failed in his exams due to health problems he was a good student. He was forced to repeat his class, he wasn't ready for that, and he wanted to sit with his friends of his previous year class. He was disturbed and was loosing interest in studies; he stopped talking with others in-fact with his parents also. Sindhu counseled him with great difficulty as he is innocent, in first 2-3 sessions he dint even look up, slowly he got close to her and was very comfortable with her. She at last convinced that child and soon he was like before happy and joyful.

Parents play a vital role for Child's mentality but most of the parents are working and have very less time for their kids. They feel lonely and develop bad habits like smoking, drinking especially teenagers. One girl was addicted to drugs, after counseling sindhu came to know most of her friends do the same when they feel lonely……that's really pity. She had conversation with all her friends and had a successful session; she helped them to explain that parents work for them to give them better life, she took them to orphanage to show how kids are alone no body to take care and they are much better than those orphans. She had a separate counseling for parents, she told them the situation and explained them to spend some time and talk with them at least on weekends by which kids understand them and cooperate.

Counseling can be defined as interpersonal, theory-based process of helping children who are physically healthy but have developmental and situational issues. As I mentioned earlier parents play a vital role for child's psychology mentality, so parents should take care of their kids and talk with them as much as possible. Be a tutor to your develop child's psychology. Counselors do their part but parents are the ones who are close to kids.

Jack of all Trades, But Master of None – Today’s Generation Kids

Today’s competitive world demands smart kids who are active and intelligent in their respective fields, but many of today’s parents look in a different perspective – they want their children to excel in almost all fields they think or know about and ready to do what so ever that will help their children meet to their expectations. Whether it is school or academy for dance or sports, parents look for the best source for their children.

Parents feel proud if their kid is known in school by all teachers and co-students and are ready to do pay a huge amount to develop special interests or talent in their kids. This sometimes leads to forcing children to do things which they are not interested or handle multiple tasks.

Children are innocent, they don’t understand the world, and they just want to be in their world of happiness. And for kids happiness means playing with friends, going out with parents to malls, chitchatting, asking stupid questions, playing pranks and many more small things which are big for their world. But now for this generation they don’t get time to do all those, tight schedule is the reason behind that.

From the time they wake-up in the morning till they sleep, kids are busy with their schedule. Apart from studies they need to go for extra curricular activities like dancing, painting, sports (tennis is the latest craze in India, all thanks to Sania Mirza) etc.. Though many of the children don’t like it parents force them to do. Children tend to loose interest in all including studies and many students live in their own world competing with himself and the competition is in which field he will be perfect.

“Jack of all trades, but master of none” is what today’s generation kids, so parents should understand it and try to make out one talent instead of forcing them to do all. Especially the things which kids love to do, at least till they are mature enough to understand this competitive world.